There are definitely some truths in there Hank! I've had the photog stand in front of the video camera like any one else - but not an unmanned one - oh no, they stand in front of the manned ones too!
Interestingly, the last two weddings the photog was gone by the end of the speeches, and the last one was not even there to cover the speeches! And they got paid MORE than the video guy. Doesn't seem right to me

We got the cake cut, the first dance and the second dance too (it was on the DVD because of some special comical things that happened).
One of the selling points I use at wedding fairs is the fact that we can get reasonable size stills from HD video where as our competitors using SD can't. OK they are not as good as I get from my Nikon D700, but they are acceptable to most people.
For wedding fairs I take a book with me that I produced in photoshop (with full color video frame wash backgrounds etc), printed on double sided photo paper and bound at home. It has lots of stills taken from video, not only the great stills that the photographer couldn't get (because they were no allowed at the front of the church for instance), but also frames taken from (say) three video cameras at the same point in time, and in some instances showing the photographer blocking one of the cameras. I use this as a sales tool to show why they need to hire a videographer with multiple cameras and operators instead of the cheaper one-man-one-camera outfits that are half the price.
I make sure they understand that while camera 1 couldn't see the ring exchange, nor could camera 2, "look - camera 3 got it", and that's the one we used in the edit. You can see the light come on in their heads as they finally understand why they need to spend more money!